If I had to take a “life test” right now, I would flunk. That whole “90% of life is remaining calm” quote? Yeah … I struggled with that even as I made the graphic for this post and started typing the opening lines … I’ve spent the better part of the afternoon and evening battling tears soaked with waves of frustration …
In Others’ Words: The Importance of the Beginning
There are times when the beginning of a matter eludes me. How to start the needed conversation. How to break the too-big task into smaller pieces so that I can see the “Do This First” spot. How to unravel the “Once Upon a Time” of a story so that more than the words Chapter One remains on page one. …
In Others’ Words: When Courage is the Testing Point
There are all sorts of lists of virtues — morally excellent behavior. Some lists are as short as four or seven virtues … some lists go on in alphabetical order. Honesty Kindness Humility Loyalty Selflessness Trustworthiness But when all is said in done — whether you limit your list of virtues to four, as the Greeks did — or expand it …
In Others’ Words: And Forgive Us Our Brokenness
I find myself embracing brokenness more and more. My brokenness. Others’ brokenness. And I also find myself grasping to understand forgiveness … truly comprehend forgiving others. Forgiving myself. The ironic thing is that for so long I aimed for perfection. And I failed. No surprise there, I know. And I thought forgiveness was as easy as hearing someone say “I’m sorry” …
In Others’ Words: The Danger of Precautions
I wish I hadn’t always been so cautious in years past. I was a bit of a “tell me the rules and I’ll follow them” kind of person. Let me put it this way: I was a safety patrol girl in school — the one wearing the neon orange belt and helping other kids cross the street. Do they even have …
In Others’ Words: Eternal Hope
There are some days that I need to lean into hope more than other days. Not just for myself … I’m hoping for the ones I love. Hoping for new beginnings. Hoping for healing. Hoping for dreams to come true. Hoping for life to be easier . . . or more satisfying . . . for the pieces to fall …
In Others’ Words: The Small Steps of Courage
I used to think of courage as this big thing … something that was often beyond me. Or something that I had to wait for … or work up to. Kind of like: Give me a few more minutes … or a few more hours … or a week or two, and I’ll be courageous. And then I learned courage …
In Others’ Words: Yogi Berra and making “wrong mistakes”
In Yogi Berra’s world, there were mistakes … and there were “wrong mistakes.” The Major League Baseball Hall of Famer, who died on Tuesday, September 22, was known for his Yogi-sms. I scrolled through a list of 30 of his most memorable quotes, and settled on “We made too many wrong mistakes.” There’s something to what he said. There are mistakes …
In Others’ Words: Taking the World as We Find It
Run across any thorns lately? Did you hear a no when you were so, so hoping for a yes? Did a family member or a friend disappoint you — or did you disappoint yourself? Were you overlooked for a longed-for recognition or promotion or award? Did you argue so badly with a loved one that reconciliation seems impossible? Were you accused …
In Others’ Words: Be Slow to Anger
There’s more to today’s quote than the admonition to grow angry slowly. Hidden behind those three words is the caution: be slow to anger … because really, not only is there plenty of time to become angry, but given time, you often realize there is no real reason to get angry. Why do you think we count to ten — …