In Others’ Words: Failure

Beth VogtFaith, In Others' Words, Life, Uncategorized 21 Comments

 

Now there’s a truth I wish I’d learned years ago: Failure is an event.

An event. 

There’s no denying that we all experience failures of all kinds in this world. Failures caused by our decisions and our choices. Failures caused by the decisions and choices of others. Deliberate actions and accidental missteps — both leading to failures.

But the life-changing truth is I am not the failure. You are not the failure. 

I gotta tell you, this is not how I lived my life for a lot of years. If something went wrong, well then, I failed — and I was a huge, disappointing f-a-i-l-u-r-e. Nobody had to tell me this — although sometimes people did — I knew it already and I made sure to tell myself, over and over again.

It’s okay to admit “Well, that didn’t go the way I planned” or to say “That was a complete bust” or even “I am so disappointed in how things turned out I just want to sit here and cry.”

But it’s vital to remember the event is the failure — not me. Not you.

That’s called giving ourselves grace.

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Comments 21

  1. Yes, failure and/or success are mileposts on each journey, hopefully as we walk w/ God and let Him shape us in the process.
    I love the wisdom you dispense in these, Beth, and celebrate your release of CAFS tomorrow.

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      Hi, Dee (and congratulations on semi-finaling in the Genesis!):
      I love this quote. It has stuck with me since last night — and I think it’s going to be a life-changer for me.

  2. Beth, such a good distinction. Sometimes I still forget that I am not the failure. I like how you put it: Failure is an event. It’s not a person. Needed those words today.

    So excited for your release!!

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  3. Very wise words, Beth! SO many people hear “you are a failure”. And even some who don’t hear it are taught it by action or reaction. Even with our prodigal daughter, we do not say “you are a failure”. Ever. She knows we loathe her lifestyle, but she knows we love her to bits.

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  4. Thanks so much for sharing such wisdom, Beth. I’d have to say failure comes in the form of both people and events. The first is harder to absorb because we have to look them in the eye again – and forgive. It may take a little longer and certainly takes a LOT more of God’s grace. An event? Well, things happen. You don’t have to stare at an event in the eye and try to figure it out. It’s much easier to chalk it up to God’s timing. Absorbing the blame for such failure only keeps the would open.

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  5. I’ve never looked at it like an event. I love this! I also agree with Donna, it can come in the form of people. My prayer is that regardless of the event/person, that God will help me to stay pliable and have a teachable spirit.

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  6. Great post. I needed this reminder.

    I started reading a great book last night. I’m only two chapters in, and I’m hooked. What’s the name of it? Catch a Falling Star.

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