Loved or understood? Do we have to choose between the two? I don’t think so. When we take the time to understand someone else, isn’t that a form of loving that person? Understanding someone demands concentrated effort. Sometimes we must set aside prejudices and preconceived ideas about a person. Understanding happens when we listen. When we consider someone else more …
In Others’ Words: If You’re Happy and You Know It …
There is a time and a place to be dignified. But there are so many more times and places to be happy. Early in my novel writing journey, I met a wonderful group of women at a My Book Therapy writing retreat. We became friends, dubbing ourselves the MBT Ponderers — after author Susan May Warren warned us not …
In Others’ Words: The Exhaustion of Insincerity
I remember the first time I heard someone teach about insincerity. I was in a teen youth group, and a boy who I liked — a boy who a lot of the girls liked — spoke on being sincere. I thought he was witty and brilliant — and yes, really cute. A year or so later, I dated the guy. When …
In Others’ Words: The Love of God and Our Limited Vision
I cried when I heard that Elisabeth Elliot died on Monday, June 15. I know I am one of thousands mourning her death even as we smile at the thought of her passing “through the gates of splendor.” Elisabeth Elliot’s 1957 bestselling book Through the Gates of Splendor told the story of how her husband Jim and four other missionaries, Nate Saint, Ed McCully, …
In Others’ Words: When Winning isn’t Everything
Patton’s statement is such a fundamental truth, there’s almost nothing to add to it: Don’t fight a battle if you gain nothing by winning. Another way to say that: Winning isn’t everything … and sometimes winning is nothing, except the ability to boast that you won. A hollow victory that echoes back at you with no lasting effect …
In Others’ Words: What a Laugh Can Do
It’s been a week where my emotions have teetered-tottered back and forth — up, down, up down. I never quite hit the ground hard … I always found a way to push myself back up into the air again — up, up, up. But then I’d get that sinking-back-down sensation again. I never was a fan of teeter-totters. This week …
In Others’ Words: Reading the same kind of book as me differently
I have two favorite questions I love to ask my author friends: 1. What are you writing? It’s always fun to listen to their answers and to be amazed by their creativity. I usually walk away thinking, “I wish I’d thought of that story!” 2. What are you reading? Asking another writer “What are you reading” is a dangerous question. …
In Others’ Words: Are We Having Fun Yet?
It’s been a week … You know. One of those weeks where you do the work. And sometimes you’re happy with your efforts … and sometimes you’re not. One of those weeks where you rest … and sometimes you’re up earlier — or later — and you’re tired. Just dragging through the day. One of those weeks where things go according …
In Others’ Words: Is Change a challenge an opportunity or a threat?
I like change a whole lot better than I used to. I guess growing up does that to you. I’m not who I used to be — and I’m thankful. And, if I have anything to say or do about it, I won’t be the same person a year from now. I clung to who I was for a long, long …
In Others’ Word: Life Has Two Rules
Can I be honest and I admit that I quit last week? I sat on the floor in my bedroom, tears running down my face, and told my husband, “I can’t do this” — “this” basically being the list of “have tos” I was staring at. Yeah … not a shining moment in my life. So I quit — for …