There comes a time when you have to decide: is this thing between you and another person a relationship or not? I’m not just talking about romantic “do I or don’t I love this person?” kind of relationships. This question comes up as friendships are formed too. And yes, the beginning of relationships make me nervous. Do I or don’t I? …
In Others’ Words: Blocked
Have you been dreaming lately? I’m not talking about the now-I-lay-me-down-to-sleep kind of dreaming. No. I’m talking about the eyes-wide-open dreams. The ones requiring planning. And effort. And waiting. And praying. Those kind of dreams. If you’d asked me if dreams involved hope, I would have said “Yes, absolutely” without pausing to think about. Dreams demand massive amounts of hope. …
In Others’ Words: Trust
“One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life.” ~E.M. Forster (1879-1970), English novelist As a novelist, I spend a lot of time with imaginary people. I don’t just hang around with them — I actually expend many hours and much energy getting to know these fictitious characters. I …