Honest relationships are the best … and honest relationships are hard to come by. I have to choose to completely trust someone before I open up to them and show them who I am — the good, bad, and the broken. And when I do that, I hope the other person respects what I’ve shared by believing me. I don’t want to …
In Others’ Words: The Beauty of a Broken Heart
When I was younger, I thought there was only one way my heart could be broken. I blame my limited thinking on all the Harlequin romances I read as a teenager — and back then, Harlequins were quite innocent. Years later, I know a person’s heart can be broken for many different reasons: the end of a relationship — think of …
In Others’ Words: Heart Sutures
Andrew Budek-Schmeisser is anything but a stranger to this blog. He’s often the one to get the conversation going in the comments. I count him a treasured friend — this, despite the fact that we’ve yet to meet face to face. That’s the wonderful thing about friendships: they are not limited by geographical boundaries. His poetic and profound words “Life …
In Others’ Words: Hearing the Silence
Sometimes it isn’t so much what we say as it is what we don’t say. I used to to think the more I said, the better chance I had of winning an argument … of influencing people and making friends … and yes, well, making my point. Talk, talk, talk meant effect, effect, effect, right? Wrong. The power of persuasion …
In Others’ Words: No guarantees
Sometimes in life, we want guarantees. If we invest in a friendship, we hope that friendship lasts. If we say to someone else, “Yes, I believe in you,” then we hope the other person will have our back, too — and stand by us, through thick and through thin. If we trust someone — with our hearts, with our dreams, …
In Others’ Words: The Reward of Listening
I enjoy a good conversation, don’t you? The give and take. The exchange of ideas. The back and forth of opinions. I don’t even mind if things get a bit heated, so long as people are respectful of one another. I especially enjoy talking and laughing with people. That is the best of times. But sometimes when I’m with a …
In Others’ Words: Closing the Distance
Last night I went browsing for a quote for today’s blog post. Searched my quote books. Searched my files. Searched online. Searched my Evernote Quote notebook. I skimmed all sorts of quotes. It wasn’t that I didn’t have a lot of quotes to choose from, it was just none of them were “pinging.” And then I found these words by Victor …
In Others’ Words: Failure is Never a Certainty
The older I get, the more I value perseverance. I wasn’t much of an athlete growing up. The first sport I got involved in? Tang Soo Do, a form of martial arts, when I was 18 years old. Yes, I was intrigued by the discipline, but I also thought the instructor was cute. *Blush* While I took exams to advance …
In Others’ Words: You, Yourself, and the World
My daughter CJ has been part of her high school Varsity volleyball team for the past few months. This weekend, my husband and I will be in Denver cheering them on as they compete for the 3A State title. Here’s one thing I’ve learned about the team: Each member knows their place on the team — what their job is, so to speak, as an offensive …
In Others’ Words: Imperfect Learning
I like to tell people that I don’t hang around with perfect people because they make me uncomfortable. I usually say it in such a way that I get a laugh. Ha ha ha. Nobody’s perfect, right? Except those of us pretending that we are. Acting like we have life all figured out. All under control. Been there, done that. Had …