@bethvogt I struggled to write this blog post. For the better part of Tuesday, I thought I just wouldn’t write anything. The hours kept ticking away, and I kept tossing aside possible topics. And at ten o’clock Tuesday night I started typing words. Just how honest would I be? Life’s been hard the past few days – the kind of …
Honesty and Hope for the Holidays
@bethvogt I was still in elementary school when I learned that tragedy – sorrow, grief – doesn’t take time off for the holidays. All the houses in our neighborhood were decorated with lights, festive wreaths on the front doors, a few lawns decorated with statues of snowmen or reindeer or candles. All the houses, save one. One of the …
Being Strong Enough to Abandon the Idea that We are Less Than Anyone Else
Most people don’t know I have a disability. Most days, I prefer it that way because I used to be afraid of how people would react. Today I decided to talk about it. About sixteen years ago, I was diagnosed with a hearing loss. I’d been frustrating my family with a lot of comments like “Huh?” and “What did …
Identifying Unclaimed Emotional Baggage
Being Brave Enough to Deal with Our Stuff by @bethvogt Last weekend one of my closest friends texted me this question: When does all the baggage stop bubbling to the surface? Her question is a bit of a mixed metaphor, yes, but still it brought to mind a vivid image: a murky lake filled with suitcases bobbing to the the …
In Others’ Words: Realistic Boundaries
I love the honesty of this quote. Oh, sure, there have been times when I wanted to believe I could do it all. But thinking I was some amazingly talented Superwoman was, at the least, unrealistic. Put it another way, that kind of thinking was just plain ridiculous. Life became much more livable when I realized my boundaries: what I’m …
In Others’ Words: Eliminate Hurry
I almost … almost made this a one word blog post. The one word would have been “How?” How do we “Ruthlessly eliminate hurry”? Dallas Willard’s statement is grand — Stop hurrying — and show no mercy toward anything that stands in your way of slowing down! — but let’s be honest with one another. Eliminating hurry from our lives …
In Others’ Words: When Story Conquers Fear
I sat across from my trusted friend Wise Guy recently and told him, “My heart seems smaller.” Had unrelenting circumstances — mine and others’ close to me — turned me into some emotional Grinch and downsized my heart? As I talked some and listened more, I realized that yes, fear had crept in and silenced me … that unknowingly I …
In Others’ Words: Whatcha’ Gonna Be?
Be silly. Be honest. Be kind. Which one of those “Be’s” jumped out at you today? There are so many things we want to be — smart, pretty, successful, well-liked, athletic — that sometimes we get lost along the way to being. We have so many “be’s” to choose from, we lose track of the important ones. Or someone tells …
In Others’ Words: Surrounded by Story
More and more, I have come to love story. My life story — and other people’s life stories, too. To be honest, there are times I see someone and, at first, I’m closed to their story. Maybe they seem a little too different from me … and I’m put off. But I’ve learned to say to myself, “This person is …
In Others’ Words: Who are You?
Honest relationships are the best … and honest relationships are hard to come by. I have to choose to completely trust someone before I open up to them and show them who I am — the good, bad, and the broken. And when I do that, I hope the other person respects what I’ve shared by believing me. I don’t want to …