As a writer, I sometimes focus on the work of it all. Writing the story synopsis. Developing the characters. Putting the fast draft down on the page, scene by scene. And then rewrite. Rewrite. Rewrite. Somewhere along the way from synopsis to rewrite-rewrite-rewrite, I forget that, at the beginning, I fell in love with the story and the characters. I …
In Others’ Words: Living in Others’ Opinions
Do you believe in yourself? Or do you believe in what other say about you? Do you, as author L. M. Montgomery says, “live in other people’s opinions”? The thing about others’ opinions? You can get caught in a vortex of competing judgements, conflicting assessments, erroneous presumptions. And then who gets to decide which point of view about you is …
In Others’ Words: How Stories Conquer Fear
So … the robot. I came upon him while walking with my husband and youngest daughter during a a foggy day in Carlsbad, California last summer. Some ingenious artist painted him on the side of a building. And yes, this painting told a story. You can come upon stories in the most unlikely places. We expect them within the covers …
In Others’ Words: The Sacredness of Tears
There was a time in my life when I would not allow myself to cry. Month after month, I refused to cry, swallowing the tears burning the back of my throat. The truth is, I had a lot to cry about. Repeated loss. Ongoing loneliness. And times of dark, dark doubt. My faith wavered. I ached to the very core …
In Others’ Words: What’s Your Main Thing?
I’ve attended hundreds of volleyball games since my youngest daughter started playing back in fifth grade. And I’ve also taken thousands of photographs.Yes, of my daughter, but of her teammates, too. The setters. The outside hitters. The liberos. The defensive specialists. The middle blockers. The right sides. One of my favorite photos? When the team huddles up. The girls do …
In Others’ Words: Believing Good When Times are Bad
I’ve always been intrigued by this quote by Anne Frank. Astounded, really. A young girl whose life was destroyed by the Nazi Holocaust states that despite everything — despite losing her home, despite having to hide from people who want to kill her and her family, despite the fear of being caught and taken to a concentration camp (which …
In Others’ Words: Never Walk Back
Progress is not about how fast you are going, but it is most definitely about forward motion. We almost always equate progress with success — although sometimes that is debatable — and sometimes we also believe success has to happen quickly. Hence, the term “overnight success,” which is an oxymoron in itself. I’ve achieved some successes in my life …
In Others’ Words: What to Do After Going Halfway
For a long time, I thought 50-50 relationships were the way to go. I do my part to meet the other person halfway and the other person does their part. Equal investments into a relationship should make it work, right? Not necessarily. And then I believed the 100% “go all in” attitude about relationships. It’s not 50-50. It’s 100% plus …
In Others’ Words: Looking for the Good Stuff
What are you looking for today? Me? I’m looking for the good stuff. The good people. The good actions. The good interactions. Kindness. Patience. Smiles. Acts of grace. Laughter. That kind of good stuff. And then I’m going to praise that goodness. I’m going to say “thank you” out loud. I’m going to smile back. I’m going to hug …
In Others’ Words: Being Thankful for Octobers
I know people who say that autumn is their favorite time of year. That’s not the case for me, but I do enjoy autumn and watching the trees change colors. And I especially enjoy the month of October. It’s right in between September and November — the month when we can catch our breath after running full tilt from summer …