I find myself embracing brokenness more and more. My brokenness. Others’ brokenness. And I also find myself grasping to understand forgiveness … truly comprehend forgiving others. Forgiving myself. The ironic thing is that for so long I aimed for perfection. And I failed. No surprise there, I know. And I thought forgiveness was as easy as hearing someone say “I’m sorry” …
In Others’ Words: The Danger of Precautions
I wish I hadn’t always been so cautious in years past. I was a bit of a “tell me the rules and I’ll follow them” kind of person. Let me put it this way: I was a safety patrol girl in school — the one wearing the neon orange belt and helping other kids cross the street. Do they even have …
In Others’ Words: Eternal Hope
There are some days that I need to lean into hope more than other days. Not just for myself … I’m hoping for the ones I love. Hoping for new beginnings. Hoping for healing. Hoping for dreams to come true. Hoping for life to be easier . . . or more satisfying . . . for the pieces to fall …
In Others’ Words: The Small Steps of Courage
I used to think of courage as this big thing … something that was often beyond me. Or something that I had to wait for … or work up to. Kind of like: Give me a few more minutes … or a few more hours … or a week or two, and I’ll be courageous. And then I learned courage …
In Others’ Words: Yogi Berra and making “wrong mistakes”
In Yogi Berra’s world, there were mistakes … and there were “wrong mistakes.” The Major League Baseball Hall of Famer, who died on Tuesday, September 22, was known for his Yogi-sms. I scrolled through a list of 30 of his most memorable quotes, and settled on “We made too many wrong mistakes.” There’s something to what he said. There are mistakes …
In Others’ Words: The Temptation of Bitterness
When I hear cautions against bitterness, I immediately think of the admonition: See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. (Hebrews 12:15 NIV) And Martin Luther King, Jr. got it right when he called bitterness a temptation — a choice we wrestle with …
In Others’ Words: Taking the World as We Find It
Run across any thorns lately? Did you hear a no when you were so, so hoping for a yes? Did a family member or a friend disappoint you — or did you disappoint yourself? Were you overlooked for a longed-for recognition or promotion or award? Did you argue so badly with a loved one that reconciliation seems impossible? Were you accused …
In Others’ Words: Be Slow to Anger
There’s more to today’s quote than the admonition to grow angry slowly. Hidden behind those three words is the caution: be slow to anger … because really, not only is there plenty of time to become angry, but given time, you often realize there is no real reason to get angry. Why do you think we count to ten — …
In Others’ Words: When We Face Difficulties
I love Tough Mudders. You know what I mean — the courses where you take on obstacles like the Human Hamster Wheel and the Dead Ringer and Electroshock Therapy 2.0. And you get muddy — really, really muddy. And then there’s the Spartan Race with obstacles like the Rope Climb and the Tire Drag and the Traverse Wall. You get muddy doing …
In Others’ Words: Why We Say Yes
I always wanted to be a writer. But for years, my focus was on nonfiction: writing for newspapers and magazines and eventually a nonfiction book. And I was happy with that dream. And then a season of burnout became a bend in the writing road. I wrote a “just for fun” novel. And I eventually showed it to my agent. …