I shared with a friend this week how my emotional margin is depleted and how, at the same time, I’m pushing to meet some self-imposed goals. She listened. This friend always listens. And then she spoke some much-needed truth to me. About how my circumstances probably weren’t going to change right now. And that maybe, instead of pushing against the …
In Others’ Words: An Adventure in Forgiveness
Sometimes the most profound truths require the least amount of words. “Life is an adventure in forgiveness.” Six words. Life-changing truth, wouldn’t you agree? Forgiveness is an adventure that leads us into the wide open spaces of freedom. Unforgiveness leads us to a dark dead end of anger and resentment and bitterness. We have a choice: to forgive or not …
In Others’ Words: Measure Up
I weigh myself every morning. And yes, it matters to me if the scale goes up or down. Right now, the number on the scale matters even more than it does at other times because I’m focused on losing weight. Not a lot of weight — just the 10 pounds that keep sticking around and annoying me. But here’s the …
In Others’ Words: Filling Voids
Some truths are more harsh than others. Some people avoid the word “sin.” They consider it outdated. Old-fashioned. We don’t sin anymore. We make mistakes. Get tripped up. Commit an error. But I prefer to call a sin a sin because it reminds me that my wrong action has wounded my soul — and possibly someone else’s soul, too. I …
In Others’ Words: Just Say No
“‘No’ is a complete sentence.” I read today’s quote and thought, “Huh.” Author Anne Lamott spoke a whole lot of truth with those five words. We can say “no” to someone and not feel obligated to offer our reasons for declining an invitation or for stepping away from an opportunity. We can say “no” and resist someone’s second and third …
In Others’ Words: Listen Carefully
Do you prefer to talk or to listen? I admit it: I love participating in a good conversation. A conversation between friends or family, sometimes interlaced with laughter or perhaps tears, can be refreshing. Healing. But more and more over the years, I’ve learned to talk less and listen more. I had to be intentional about being quiet and listening. …
In Others’ Words: Someone to Inspire You
To be honest, I tripped over the first few words of this quote by Emerson before I embraced the rest of the truth. While I agree with him that we all want to be inspired to be who we can be, I’m not so certain that’s our “chief want.” I want a lot of things. I need a lot of …
In Others’ Words: From Here to Eternity
I’ve mulled over Thomas Merton’s words for several days now. “Every moment and every event of every man’s life on earth plants something in his soul.” I usually stay away from generalizations like that — careful not to use words like “every” and “all” in statements. But I don’t believe Merton is overstating the truth here. I think we overlook …
In Others’ Words: When Story Conquers Fear
I sat across from my trusted friend Wise Guy recently and told him, “My heart seems smaller.” Had unrelenting circumstances — mine and others’ close to me — turned me into some emotional Grinch and downsized my heart? As I talked some and listened more, I realized that yes, fear had crept in and silenced me … that unknowingly I …
In Others’ Words: How Stories Conquer Fear
So … the robot. I came upon him while walking with my husband and youngest daughter during a a foggy day in Carlsbad, California last summer. Some ingenious artist painted him on the side of a building. And yes, this painting told a story. You can come upon stories in the most unlikely places. We expect them within the covers …