@bethvogt I love it when a plan comes together, don’t you? (Yes, an obvious nod to the A-Team.) And when a plan doesn’t? I scramble to scoop up all the falling apart pieces into my hands. Wanting to find a way to make my original plan work. It was a good plan – or so I thought. I’m not wrong. …
Do You Operate in Crisis Mode?
Learning to Balance Our Emotions by @bethvogt “This is a deadline, not a crisis.” I woke up in the middle of the night with that phrase running through my head. I’d gone to bed a couple of hours earlier frustrated yet again. Staring down a looming writing deadline and an insufficient word count. I’d been chasing that deadline for …
In Others’ Words: Two Ways to Be Happy
I shared with a friend this week how my emotional margin is depleted and how, at the same time, I’m pushing to meet some self-imposed goals. She listened. This friend always listens. And then she spoke some much-needed truth to me. About how my circumstances probably weren’t going to change right now. And that maybe, instead of pushing against the …
In Others’ Words: The Certainty of Happiness
What determines your happiness: your circumstances or your attitude? I would have to say there were times … are times … I allow my circumstances to determine whether I’m happy or not. Things go right — the way I want them to go — and I’m happy. All good. Things go wrong? I’m fighting against the drag of my emotions. …
In Others’ Words: More Gratitude
May you find many reasons to be thankful today. May you take the opportunity to tell others you are thankful for them. And I also hope that you hear others express their gratitude for you. Happy Thanksgiving, friends. And if this day is woven through with some sadness for you, as can happen during the holidays, know that you …
In Others’ Words: Small Joys
Just for today, let’s set aside the word “goal,” shall we? Just for today, let’s also set aside the word “happiness.” (Although I had an interesting discussion about happiness while I was in Breckenridge this past weekend. Another blog post.) Small joys. I want to talk with you all about small joys. So often I laser in on the goal — whatever …
In Others’ Words: If You’re Happy and You Know It …
There is a time and a place to be dignified. But there are so many more times and places to be happy. Early in my novel writing journey, I met a wonderful group of women at a My Book Therapy writing retreat. We became friends, dubbing ourselves the MBT Ponderers — after author Susan May Warren warned us not …
In Others’ Words: Seeing the Small Joys
I can spend my days so focused on the one big thing that I hope will ensure me happiness … fame … or accolades … or some sort of self-satisfaction that creates an “I’m enough” feeling — however fleeting … Or I can gather the small joys that make up the every days of my life. Laughter shared with friends Hugs …
In Others’ Words: You
“The better part of happiness is to wish to be what you are.” ~Desiderius Erasmus (1466? – 1536) , Catholic priest I gotta be honest with you: I wasted a lot of time thinking the only way I could be really, truly happy was if I was somebody else. Someone more like you, maybe. I spent a lot of time …
In Others’ Words: Surpised
“Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open.” ~ John Barrymore, American actor It’s delightful when happiness tiptoes up behind you, taps you on the shoulder, and then — when you turn around — yells “Surprise!” Yesterday that happened when … my daughter’s laughter mingled with her boyfriend’s my 10-year-old crawled into bed wearing …