I used to avoid messy moments. Hide my messy moments. Now I write about messy moments. And some of the messy moments in my novels aren’t imaginary — they’re just fictionalized. I understand that life is messy. I accept that life — my life — is messy. Acceptance doesn’t mean I always like life’s rough edges and unsettled seasons. And …
In Others’ Words: Rekindling the Inner Spirit
Life can be hard. Perplexing. Frustrating. Things happen that discourage us. Maybe someone’s words wilts our spirit. Or maybe someone’s actions — their decision to mock us or to ignore us — wounds our hearts. And our belief in ourself — our inner fire — is snuffed out. But then we connect with someone who rekindles our inner spirit because …
In Others’ Words: What are You Looking For?
My husband frequents the flower display at Costco. Most days, there are some sort of flowers displayed in a vase on my kitchen counter or breakfast nook table: lush roses or a mixed variety of blooms or the occasional exuberant collection of sunflowers. On the one hand, there’s nothing fancy about a Costco buy-them-in-bulk bouquet, right? But it’s true that …
In Others’ Words: Don’t Beat Up Your Soul
I don’t know what a person’s soul looks like, but I do believe there is no one-size-fits-all version. And yet … and yet, there have been times I’ve treated my soul like a ready-to-wear garment found in a store. I like what I have, until I see what someone else has … and I think, “Hmmmm, I like that style …
In Others’ Words: Time Requirement
Each of us is striving toward a different goal, but whatever we want to accomplish requires the same thing: skill, and effort, and time. Sometimes, more than anything else, the time required to reach our goals trips us up. We feel good about ourselves when we’re learning a skill. We feel good about effort of any kind. Pursuing a …
In Others’ Words: Finding Rest When You’re More Than Tired
Some days you work hard and go to bed at the end of the day good and tired. And some days you’re worked over and go to bed at the end of the day more than tired. You know the difference, right? The days when you put in the work, hit the mark you were aiming for — or maybe …
In Others’ Words: Realistic Boundaries
I love the honesty of this quote. Oh, sure, there have been times when I wanted to believe I could do it all. But thinking I was some amazingly talented Superwoman was, at the least, unrealistic. Put it another way, that kind of thinking was just plain ridiculous. Life became much more livable when I realized my boundaries: what I’m …
In Others’ Words: Just Say No
“‘No’ is a complete sentence.” I read today’s quote and thought, “Huh.” Author Anne Lamott spoke a whole lot of truth with those five words. We can say “no” to someone and not feel obligated to offer our reasons for declining an invitation or for stepping away from an opportunity. We can say “no” and resist someone’s second and third …
In Others’ Words: Wrong and Right
There will be times when we are wrong. There will be times when we are right. It comes down to this: What will we do during the wrong times and the right times? Who will we be? When we’re wrong, we can pretend our wrong is right. Or we can close our eyes and ignore our wrong. Or point at …
In Others’ Words: Make a Wish
Wishes can come true … … but only if you stop wishing and do something about them. How’s that for a practical thought to start your day? And yes, there’s a certain energy to wishes and dreams … a creative buzz, if you will. Dreaming isn’t a waste of time unless that’s all we ever do. Dreams are meant to …